Open your heart

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Hi ! How are you today?

Open your heart- Heee if your heart feels closed, like you are so tensed up that you can't even imagine feeling anything but anger toward he/she- you can try what always works for me when someone frustrates me:

Practice gratitude. Just sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and write what you appreciate about her/he. Trust me, it's hard to feel angry and grateful at the same time- and gratitude almost always wins!

Just like every other relationship we're talked about, the one between you and your sister will have good times and challenging times. Sometimes the people closest to us are the ones who test us the most- because we feel so close to them, we might feel more comfortable snapping at them!

 Like I told you, my sister and I still argue sometimes, but we've had a lot of practice over the years getting to know how to handle each other. Hmmm

Just keep working the action steps and remember how much your contribution can change the dynamic for the better.

You and your sister/brother/mom/dad love each other... And that kind of love can get you two through anything!!

Love, 
Lily.

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