Flip it

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Flip it: two word that can become your favourite new mantra! -something you repeat to yourself that activates new belief.

Whenever I catch myself having one those mean thoughts that I believe is really true, I remind myself I can "flip it", meaning I can choose to change how I'm feeling about myself in that moment.
No joke, it's  within your power to turn this around. We can re-program our minds, just like we started to do in action.

#1 when we look in the mirror, we actually start to love what we see instead of automatically tearing ourselves down. You're probably wondering how to do this right? Hang in there with me, I'll explain. Heeee

Negative thoughts have a lot of power. Think back to recent bad day you had. How many times that day would you say you told yourself something mean?? I'm guessing a lot. If you keep telling yourself you look like crap, then that becomes you belief, and whether you realize it or not, your brain is then programmed to seek out other "flaws". It becomes a habit.

The way we break this habit is by creating a command that will stop the flow of those negative thoughts. It can be anything like. "stop it" or "do not do this", "knock it off" or "no way" - this is not happening any more!" If you had a  awful houseguest, would you allow them to keep yelling nasty comments to you?
 I don't think so! 

Just like you would need to take care of yourself by showing them the front door, you need do the same within yourself. So when a mean thought comes out, you can "flip it" by commanding it to stop in its tracks. 
Heheh behaviourist say that if you want to break a habit, it takes 28 days... so let's consider today day one of your new programming. -27 more to go! Haa!

You also need to replace them with some positive ones. So I want you to try something okay? The next time you stand in front of a mirror, instead of automatically zeroing in on what you hate, ask yourself,

What do I like about what I see?

C'mon, dont tell me you cant find one thing you like.
Appreciating even one feature can start your mental list of positive thoughts flowing which you can then use to replace the negative ones. By reprogramming ourselves to seek out the positive we can create a much better habit.

This might feel a little weird at first, but it works.

Dont worry if some days you fall back into your old patterns. You can start fresh anyday, any time- it's an ongoing practice.

See why "flip it" can become your favourite new mantra?

Love,
Lily





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