Let yourself feel the pain

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I know you want to do anything you can to numb the pain, make it go away.
And even though there are always to give yourself comfort and relief, those are just momentary burst of help along the way to real healing. Almost always, the only way out of heartbreak is through it.

I will be honest- it freakin hurts to get your heart broken, but my advice is LET IT HURT.

Let it hurt real good, because you need to feel it completely in order to get over it.
After a while, you'll be done with the pain and you'll pick yourself up and move on. But it'll be clean.

Please dont put pressure on yourself to just get over it fast. 

I've learned for myself that if you let yourself feel everything that comes up, instead of rushing through or resisting it, the pain will pass more quickly.

Love,
Lily.

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